What are we doing when we say "We are giving someone the benefit of the doubt" Most of us have said  this several times in our life. Basically, we are benefitting someone by nulling the doubt because a doubt is a doubt after all. SAY WHAT? Ok, let's go from this angle. Have you ever had a bad day? Well there is a stupid question. If you said no to that, please call me. We need to put you in a bottle and sell you. Ok, seriously. Try to remember your last bad day. I can remember mine like it was yesterday. O wait, it was yesterday.

I was just in a sour mood. I did not take the time to understand why I was so upset, so I continued my whole day mad at the world. I was barking at everyone. My oldest son was home with a stomach virus for the second day. I was upset with him because he was home. Yes, I know, that makes no sense. When I got home, Jen asked me if I had a bad day. I quickly barked out, YES. It was horrible. Jen just shook her head and kept on making dinner. As the evening went on, it seemed to get worse. My kids are VERY active kids. My living room is an indoor running track. Yesterday I let them know my disapproval. Jen quickly stepped in and told them to go outside.

I finally got smart and called a wise old friend of mine. I was looking for some wonderful advice how to take care of my bad day. His only question to me was, "Why are you having a bad day" I sat there and thought about it for a few seconds. I then blurted out a well thought-out intelligent answer. "I Don't Know" I spent my whole day being mad about nothing, well almost nothing. I started to trace my day back and realized my day was ruined because our new puppy woke us up two times last night and I was tired.

I believe most people have good hearts. I always give people the benefit of doubt. I have found that most people that are mean, angry, or just plain miserable, have a reason. They are yearning for help. I used to attack people like this. I reaffirmed how miserable they were and how much they ruined my day. I now kill them with kindness. They can be as negative as they want to me, but I keep being extremely nice to them. I ask them how there day is and if they need to talk about something, I am their man. I can't tell you how many people I have gotten to talk to me.

So remember, the next time someone cuts you off, smile at them and wave. When someone attacks you, don't attack back. Kill them with kindness. You will be amazed the changes you can make in a persons life. It will also keep you from letting one small moment define your day.